It’s a new dawn.
It’s a new day.
It’s a new life for me.
And I’m feeling good.
It’s one day after the day before.
The day before being last year.
A New Year doesn’t mean that the circumstances and challenges in life will suddenly change. That the areas that were once a struggle will simply disappear.
‘I’ve decided that’s going to happen and I’ll apply the will power to make it so’ doesn’t always work!
For many, the New Year is all about New Years Resolutions. Except they’re not that new. In fact lots of the time they’re the same resolutions that were set the previous year. Old Year Resolutions with a contextual twist to make them fresh. Resolution or delusion?
Oh so sadly delusional.
A lot of the time.
Well to be precise, 92% of the time. As Jessica Lamb Shapiro writes in Time Magazine, Only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions stick to them, and those who don’t, usually abandon them after just one week.
There’s so much energy being wasted in setting oneself up for a fall. The symbolic date produces a collective energy, but without the right foundations, it’s likely we’ll end up giving up. We’ll experience further disappointment and dis-satisfaction till the next ‘This time I’m going to do it’ internal moment comes (aka Next New Year).
But let’s not knock those who want to change.
That’s too easy. And it takes courage to want to change. It takes strategy to implement the change.
Sadly, there are those who are smug about not setting New Years Resolutions, looking down on others who do.
‘Waste of time.’
But they stop there.
Throughout the year they remain stuck in ruts and habits they don’t like, living lifestyles they’re not inspired by and settling for mediocracy. Setting no goals is certainly not the answer either.
So what does it mean to make changes that last? When and how does that happen? Perhaps the real challenge isn’t just the issue. It’s how you face the issue and all other subsequent issues. Get this right for one issue and apply that methodology into your other challenges.
Over the next 6 days I want to explore the important steps for laying down foundations to create healthy change, without the hype or the pressure that accompanies a New Years resolution.
If you’re consistently in the 92% zone, I’d like to permission you to stop and break your resolutions now and start it again in a weeks time. Don’t beat yourself up over it, it’s better to press pause and increase your likelihood to succeed as opposed to becoming disillusioned by another failed resolution.
Discover how to lay these foundations right and establish change in a way that lasts.
I’m walking this with you. I know the theories, I’ve seen them applied and work in my life and the lives of others. But I’m equally coming out of my own Winter, where there has been lots of pruning and many changes needed going forward.
By applying this thinking, I’ve seen early results in a number of areas of my life. I’ve lost 3 stone in the last 18 months and kept it off, I’m more singleminded in my focus on the right goals, and I’ve developed a life giving early morning ritual.
But it’s important for me to see further change, and for the work to be consistent and deep. So if you’re up for it and have challenges of your own, let’s Change together.
You’ll need to devote 12 minutes a day for the next 6 days. Through the time together I’ll be getting you to reflect and jot down your thoughts. As the days unfold I want to get your feedback on the methodology and approach used.
So without more ado, either in the comments below or to yourself, please write responses to the following questions. If you want a bit of accountability over the next few days, feel free to email me your thoughts (firstname.lastname@example.org) so I can encourage you along the journey.
Here’s your questions:
1. What’s the biggest challenge you’re wanting to tackle? (Just pick one. You can look at others later).
2. Have you tried to tackle this challenge previously? What happened?
3. Write your specific challenge?
4. What is the pain you experience as a result of not addressing this challenge?
5. How does this challenge affect your quality of life?
6. How does this challenge affect other people?
7. What are the consequences of not addressing this challenge?
8. How would you feel if this challenge was overcome?
That’s it. Come back- we’ll pick up the next steps tomorrow.
I’d love to hear your thoughts or responses in the comments below: