What’s The Impact Of Not Reaching Your Goals? I’m Going To Enjoy The Pain Of Failure Now…


“Whoever scores the most goals wins the game.”

If it’s true in sports, it’s true in our own, personal development, too. Although we may not be competing against another team, the biggest opposition that we’re up against is ourselves. I don’t know about you, but I find that if I am not careful I can be the biggest obstacle to reaching my goals. I can also be the biggest asset in achieving what I want to achieve.

Therefore, how we plan for and execute our goals is a crucial factor in determining whether we’ll be a success or not.

When planning for a goal, we need to make the goal compelling. It shouldn’t simply be: lose two stone, earn £2000 more. The goal needs to motivate us whenever we refer back to it. In the times of lethargy and distraction, we’ll be more likely to reconnect with what is important to us if we can connect with the strength of feeling we had with the goal.

One of the ways to make a goal specifically compelling is to identify with the pain that we would experience if we weren’t to complete on this goal and overcome the challenge.

By stopping to consider the impact not fulfilling this goal has on our WISPERS (Wealth, Intellect, Spirituality, Physical well-being, Emotions, Relationships & Success), it’s harder to simply cast aside and forget about it for another day. When we write down and identify the pain of a situation we can visualize the joy found in overcoming that pain, and we begin to psychologically change our beliefs and be more focused on the outcome.

You’re likely to have heard of the SMART criteria (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Based), but sometimes changing the one sentence definition of your goal can be equally motivating: “I want to be a lean, mean, fighting machine and lose two stone by the summer, so I look hot in shorts, and can run around more energetically with my kids.”

1. Take the time to identify with the pain that is found in not achieving your goals and write down what your life would look like if this change wasn’t made.
2. Visualize how you feel once you’ve achieved this goal, and write down what this would mean to you.
3. Write a compelling statement which identifies the specific realities of the goal and states them in a way that motivates you.


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